If things become more serious, however, you should tell your potential partner.Friedman says a good time might be when you decide to see each other exclusively or when you just feel that you care more deeply about each other.In addition to surrounding yourself with the support of friends and family, Sheela Raja, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and assistant professor at the University of Illinois at Chicago, says it’s important to let potential partners know how they can help you.For example, if you exercise regularly to help lift your mood, ask your partner to join you.Just talking about your relationship and how depression may impact it lets a person know you want him or her to be a part of your life.If your potential partner asks questions or offers advice, recognize the good intent behind the wordseven if they aren't that helpful.More than 80% of people who seek treatment get relief from symptoms, according to Mental Health America.
Understand his desire to help, but let him know you can’t always put on a happy face.
You might choose that time to share that you have depression.”When you feel the time is right, Friedman suggests a three-part “script.” First, tell your partner that she is important to you, enough so that you have something about yourself to share with her.
Second, don’t just blurt out “I suffer from depression.” Instead, preface it by telling her there’s something you’ve struggled with that’s a fairly common problem, let her know you have been diagnosed with depression and that you’re taking care of yourself by seeking treatment.
If you are having libido problems that are medication related, talk to your doctor about alternatives that might be less likely to dampen your sex drive.
You can also let your partner know that you care in other ways.
“There are always individual differences,” she says.