With my first, third, and fourth losses, my husband and I chose to bury the baby at our local Catholic cemetery.I had a D&C in all three of these cases, and we were able to obtain the baby’s remains from the hospital.The number of registered sex offenders compared to the number of residents in this city is smaller than the state average. Jones, Alexei Krindatch, Richie Stanley and Richard H. The representative we spoke with gave us her cell phone number and told us to have the hospital call her if we had any issues, so if possible, I recommend letting the funeral home run interference if you run into any resistance.) With my most recent loss and D&C (June 2, 2015 – we named the baby Francis), our first step was, prior to the procedure, filling out special paperwork authorizing the hospital to release Francis’ remains.One of the forms asked my purpose for the remains, and I wrote, “Burial of my child.” I was determined that everyone who read that paperwork would know that we recognized our baby for who s/he was — a valuable, beloved child.
It’s especially hard when the loss occurs in early pregnancy, since our culture isn’t accustomed to treating unborn babies as human beings — and this happens even in pro-life circles. I have been in this unfortunate position four times.
If the hospital does not have a process for releasing the baby’s remains, then they need to develop one.
(Incidentally, we met with the funeral home on the morning of my D&C, and they were very helpful regarding arrangements.
Francis’ remains had been sent to another hospital’s pathology department for identification (i.e., a medical technician had to make sure all parts were accounted for).
We had the option to have the remains released with or without preservative.
If you are waiting for a miscarriage to occur at home, or if you suspect one will occur, it’s important to be prepared to save the baby’s remains for burial, if you so choose.